But at the end of the day I’m an ugly dude & people probably find me intimidating cause I’m black. This helps, but the biggest improvement to their self-esteem is that they do eventually get dates. I help them, and demonstrate, hot to approach dozens , hundreds of women until they get a phone number, or a kiss, or a lay. I really just came here to vent more than anything tbh, might give up and turn asexual. A young guy figures he’s too ugly, and black, to attract the women he desires. And wow, these dudes don’t feel so ugly after that. There are ways to cosmetically fix these, or you can take the other route: Stop focusing on what you can’t, or are unwilling to change. You guys have no idea how many handsome guys I receive for bootcamps that figure they are ugly, or short, or stupid, or broke, or asian. You were given a body you can build, a mind you can improve, confidence you can grow. Women aren’t attracted to looks the way that men are. But women also have a special filter, a filter that screens for value in areas other than your looks.
If you have a relationship/dating question I can help answer, you can send me your letters at [email protected](be sure to read these guidelines first). We got to know each other when I struck up a conversation with him in the elevator, and again when we bumped into each other on campus.
You can also follow along on Facebook and Instagram. My last boyfriend and I met in my apartment building after we’d each been living there for almost a year.
She hesitated but admitted that I could be because I dress well, always look neat and am organized and ambitious.
I understand that to a certain extent, but am frustrated because I always try to smile and be friendly to people.
I have never been asked out on a date, yet everyone tells me that I am so nice and have a great sense of humor. This is especially true with young men (and women), as they are inexperienced, juiced on puberty hormones and the vigor of youth and have in many cases not yet realized that sex in the context of love is a far better thing than just plain old sex.
What I don’t understand is what is wrong with me that guys don’t seem interested in dating me. It doesn’t sound like you’re lacking for opportunities actually, if you are turning male attention down on a regular basis.
I really doubt anyone who knows me well would say I was a bitch or give anyone a reason to be afraid of me.
I feel that I am always having to make the first move with guys and I would like to feel as though I am being pursued, instead of the other way around for once.
Take some time to think this question through please: Sometimes we act in ways that are against what we really want to achieve simply because we lack the courage of our convictions, or the creativity to see solutions that haven’t been handed to us on a platter.
Are you passively waiting around for men to approach you or are you taking charge of your situation by actively searching out the type of boy who would be healthy for you to become involved with? At a bar or party where people are looking to “see and be seen” — or in some sort of setting (like a club, volunteer group, religious group, etc.) where you’re likely to meet someone who actually shares your interests?
Feeling ugly and unattractive is a highly common problem that probably all of us have experienced at one time or another.