I was messing around on Facebook the other day and came across an article one of my friends linked to titled “Fifteen Reasons to Date a Paramedic.” At least that’s how I’ll explain to my girlfriend why I was on e looking at an article on dating advice.
Curiosity got the better of me with this one and I figured the slight ego boost that comes from seeing how my profession might make me a more desirable romantic partner couldn't hurt.
If you have fantasies of being carried over the threshold, your date is likely physically up to the task.” To that article’s #15 I counter with every coworker I’ve ever had who considered gas station burritos to be a food group.
I had tried really hard up to that point to hold it back, honestly. I think part of me recognized that she was much smarter and more modest than me. This fire was burning in me, a fire that burned just like that second date: I was in love. Marriage, quicker than I was ready for, did this thing: it started sucking away that emotion. In other words, it was in the practicality that I found the love I was looking for. That fire I felt, it was simply that: emotional fire. I think that might be a big part of the reason the divorce rate is so high in this country. It’s time that we changed the conversation about love. Because until we do, adultery will continue to be common. I wanted to tell her on the first date, but I knew that would probably be weird. She kind of gave me this half-shy, half-amused smile. But as time has gone on, I also realized that she knew something that I didn’t. I tried so hard to keep that fire going, to keep that emotion alight, but it got harder and harder. And what was even more interesting was that once I realized this on a conscious level, and started trying to find more opportunities to give, the more we both, almost intuitively, became lovey-dovey. From the excitement of dating a woman I felt like I could marry. Imagine a whole nation of people constantly chasing the emotions they had when they were dating. That’s a recipe for disastrous marriages; for a country with a 50% divorce rate; for adultery (the classic attempt to turn the fire back on); for people who do stay together to simply live functional, loveless marriages. How many people are in pain simply because they’ve been lied to. MALE 19 years old I have written 3 short stories in my life. One of the highest profile volunteer responsibilities in the USA - and, really, worldwide - is volunteer firefighting. I used to write alot and then I stopped for some reason but I'm back in the game and missed every moment of it.
It's one of my hobbies that I just recently picked back up. Since then, I've lived in Illinois, Wyoming, Colorado, Southern and Northern California and Florida (not recommended).
So even though I’m in a happily committed relationship with a saint and not in need of dating tips, I read it.
Articles like that one, while well intentioned, are basically fluff pieces put up by websites that need to have some sort of “content” to get page views.
Like most Hasidic Jews (we both became religious later in life), our dating period lasted a very short time. I mean, how you can feel that burning love when you’re sitting at the table discussing how to use the last twenty dollars in your bank account? How can you feel it when you think it makes perfect sense to put your socks on the floor after you’re done with them, and she has this crazy idea that they need to go in the laundry basket? And now, as I’m a bit older and a bit more experienced with this relationship, I’ve finally come to realize something.
There was no way I could keep that dating fire burning as practicality invaded our lives. Something I haven’t wanted to admit for a long time, but is undeniable.
#13: Personal Hygiene and Consideration – Paramedics spend a LOT of time with their work partners, sometimes spending hours upon end sitting in a parking lot waiting for the next call.