The only thing to do was to look at others and try to figure out the typical family life. Giving up control could send life into chaos so there is normally an overreaction to maintain it.
It makes it tough to trust your own opinion and develop a strong sense of identity. Many ACOAs have not received much affirmation, so they are in desperate need.
Every time my boss would walk in I would get nervous. I lacked a confident identity and personal freedom.
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On the Adult Children of Alcoholics website they list the following as definitions of codependency: As an ACA you learn to function with these beliefs in order to survive family life but unfortunately as you progress in adulthood you realize that you don’t know who YOU are because you have been satisfying the needs of others your whole life. adult population, have been exposed to alcoholism in the family.
This is particularly difficult when you form relationships outside the family and can leave you feeling very depressed, angry or even anxious. If you suffer from depression or anxiety or you just want to understand these issues better, please call for an appointment.
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