Since the 1960s, our roles in the dating world have shifted dramatically.These changes have been great, but they’ve also left many of us unsure about common dating etiquette and practices. Our e H clients often ask us who should be the pursuer in a relationship.
At first blush, this may not sound much like good news.
Thanks to online dating and dating apps, the prospect pool has quadrupled in size since our parents were dating—and so has the competition.
We all know the cardinal dating rule: Let the guy make the first move.
Don't ask for his number, don't call him first—let the guy pursue you.
Online Miscommunication & Timing Issues Event coordinator Cynthia, 27, decided to do something about her crush on a college friend. I thought maybe it was time to say something so I told him, ‘You,’” she recalls.
Unfortunately, her friend thought she wasn’t being serious and jokingly replied, “This won’t work.” Cynthia took the joke to heart.
“I joked about how I thought we could have been together once,” she says.
“He didn’t understand, so I reminded him how I told him that I liked him.” As it turns out, had he known she’d been serious, he would’ve been happy to be a couple.
“From then on, I felt very awkward and stayed at a distance.” After some time apart, her feelings eventually faded.
It wasn’t until graduation that she brought up her feelings again.
Having talked with hundreds of women in the Sixty and Me community, I can see how there could be some truth to this.