If I'm in an exclusive relationship, I can lie on the couch while she does stuff with her family.
"You're spending a lot of time together, going out on dates, meeting each other's friends, and not seeing anyone else.Sounds like a girlfriend to me." "It is an unspoken understanding," he said, "In agreeing to be exclusive, we're basically saying, 'I like you and want to see if this continues to be good, so I won't do anything with anyone else that could mess this up, but officially calling you is a little too much at this point.'" Ok, so...She theorized that once you've told someone you want to date them exclusively, you are committed to only them.You've made a commitment to be faithful,to put energy in only that relationship.in essence, she is his girlfriend in everything but name.
And that's okay because, contrary to those bemoaning the supposed death of monogamy, it's clearly not the monogamy that freaks him out, but rather, monogamy's prescribed terminology.The other day my sister and her husband (Jake) and I werediscussing "exclusive" versus "committed."Of course, we guys had a different opinion than my sister.My little sister took the stance that exclusivity and commitment were the same.Jake and I saw differences between committed and exclusive.We figured that exclusive simply meant that there was no hooking up with anyone else allowed: no making out, no dating.Our theory on commitment was that it evolves slowly, long after exclusivity.