For all my shyness, I never found it very difficult to have conversations on a first date.
It isn’t that I gained confidence, I just planned ahead.
As I discuss in my free online dating guide, successful online dating relies in part on making great first impressions.
For this discussion refers to your first message in online dating.
This will include whatever method the service you are using allows you to write a message to another member.
How important is it to write a good online dating first email?
The answer to that may seem obvious, but just in case it isn’t let me say: writing a great first message in online dating is critical to success or failure in your dating life.
Dating as an institution is a relatively recent phenomenon which has mainly emerged in the last few centuries.
From the standpoint of anthropology and sociology, dating is linked with other institutions such as marriage and the family which have also been changing rapidly and which have been subject to many forces, including advances in technology and medicine.
These two approaches worked very well together ensuring that (at least on first dates) there were never any awkward pauses.
The topics you choose should not solely be there to fill in empty space.
This article discusses my general approach for first date conversations with online dating.
If you’re instead looking for a list ideas, check out my article on First Date Questions and Conversation Starters.
It is also worth noting that most often discuss this from the point of view of a man contacting a woman, since that was my experience, but my hope is that the thoughts here are helpful to anyone.