For the other person, there is nothing they can do to help this person.
You cannot encourage growth, compliment them, or reassure them — enough. Do you look to your partner for constant reassurance and validation?
They often feel like they have to "walk on eggshells" with their partners, which takes the joy out of the relationship.
For others of us, it’s a constant worldview, a general desperation and insecurity underlying every interaction.
Either way, it is one of the most important topics here at AOC, and it doesn’t get talked about enough. Let’s get a handle on exactly what neediness is, why it’s so troublesome, and — most importantly — how to address it.
Some guys come to The Art of Charm knowing they’re needy. In fact, I’d say most men who are being needy in a relationship (or in general) don’t know they’re being needy — or how they’re needy, which can be even trickier to spot.
And yet neediness is one of those qualities, like insecurity and general awkwardness, that can fester for years, often without anyone diagnosing it, often without the person even realizing it’s there.
Before I jump into the heart of the matter, I’m going to lay the groundwork by telling you about a man who recently sought my advice.
His problem was that women usually lost interest in him, despite his good looks, money, and intelligence.
Because fixing this one problem can have massive repercussions across your life.
Why No One Likes a Needy Man It’s probably no surprise that neediness is a major attraction killer.
The longer the relationship goes on however, the more the power differential results in people become very careful not to do or say things that would make their partner upset.
Instead of focusing on loving their partner, they become focused on not upsetting their partner.
Rather than have a gradually deteriorating relationship, these somewhat needy people have roller coaster relationships with many emotional ups and downs.