I can best describe it as courting with initial ambiguity.
Things also move much more slowly than in the west.
In a college setting, you may be used to just “hanging out” with others.While sitting and talking is perfectly normal among platonic friends, on a date, you should plan on actually engaging in some enjoyable activity.I’m going to start out with a disclaimer: Every person- and consequently every situation- is different. I am going off of my experience and some discussions with my Japanese friends and friends who have lengthy experience with the culture.I’m sure people can find exceptions to what I am putting forth as general rules. Additionally, I am a man, so all of my understanding comes from the perspective of a man.Being in love can make people do the strangest things.
It just goes to show that animals aren’t the only ones capable of exhibiting bizarre courting behavior—not by a long shot.
I would love more input from the experiences of others.
I would especially love to hear back from my Japanese friends with their thoughts and perspectives on the topic. Any more I can learn will only serve myself and others better. Japan, and as I understand it most of Asia, has a very different dating culture than that of the West.
The person who does the asking should pay for the date, unless the person asked insists on paying for herself while on the date.
Making a “date” commits you to doing something, such as going to a movie, going dancing or having dinner.
Frequently the tribe from which a warrior stole a bride would come looking for her, and it was necessary for the warrior and his new wife to go into hiding to avoid being discovered.